BULLYING

           In my own classroom, bullying is one of my problem. No matter how I tried to discipline my pupils, there will be one, two or three pupils who would resort to fighting others for simple reasons: they were teased or called by fun names. Usually the one that gets into trouble are the ones who are inattentive of the lessons. Those who care so much with others and doesn’t want to be cared also. People are hard to understand when they are hard-headed, when they believe that they have to get even to those who hurt them verbally or physically.

        

          This situation is also true to us adults. When we are stabbed at the back we either fight back or resort to be silent and plan of fighting back in the future. We have more choices compare to our pupils because at our age we should be in control to our emotions and decide to what could be good for us. Someday we will meet the same face again, working with the same fellows, but if reacting would give others the lesson, then why not let  them experience the benefit of your anger also.

         As for the children, I believe that they are manageable, that their minds can be twisted to what is right, they just need proper guidance, appreciation and encouragement. Household situations can hold them back or can make them like steel.They become dominant in their own way, they do not want to be overpowered by others. They have to fight back believing that it is a self – defense or else they will be over-shadowed by peers.

        As adults or as teachers, what are we suppose to do? Scold them? Bully them also? They just need to be understood, work on their emotions. They want to be cared, feel loved and accepted. We all want acceptance in this world. We know that once we are accepted, we can move with ease. With their young minds, they have to be guided, nurtured and developed.

        For my pupils this year, I talked to them, have fun moments with them, so they will be open to situations wherein they will feel loved. That some people can be trusted and some are really not  and those are the moment where they have to guard themselves , keep their strength and be responsible enough with their own actions.